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Parent Wellbeing

Babies grow best in homes that are loving and stable, even when times get tough. Taking care of yourself and reaching out for support when you need it can make a big difference in navigating these moments. 

A Karitane Nurse with a mother and baby

Overview

Sometimes you’ll feel like you know what you’re doing. Other times you won’t. But you don’t have to learn it all on your own. Getting support that you or a family member need is a sign of great strength. Support networks exist to promote the health and wellbeing of the entire family.

Many people feel like they need to be the “perfect” parent. It takes practice to get better, be patient with yourself and your partner.

Changes in Identity

It’s normal to feel a sense of loss or shift in identity after becoming a parent. The life you had before children may feel quite different from what your life is like now as a parent, and that’s part of the journey. 

Taking time away from your job to raise your baby is a big decision, too. It’s natural to feel both excited and concerned about it.

Being a Role Model

For some, being a role model for their child can feel tough , especially if they didn’t have a positive role model growing up. It’s okay to feel unsure—you’re learning as you go, and doing the best you can matters most

Balancing Work and Family

Juggling work and family can be tough. Paid parental leave can be limited, and the need to adapt quickly can be stressful. Finding that balance is something many parents find hard, so you’re not alone.

Keeping Your Relationship Strong

With so much focus on your baby, it’s natural for your relationship to sometimes feel as though it’s coming last. Make time for moments to connect with your partner when possible to keep the bond strong. Each step on this journey is unique, and every challenge you face helps shape your family’s story. You’re doing great by taking it one day at a time.

10 Tips for Caring for Yourself

  1. Adjusting to parenting takes time for everyone. Learning any new skill takes time. You don’t have to be perfect, just give it a go. It is normal not to know exactly what your baby needs all the time.
  2. Being a perfect parent is an unrealistic expectation. Don’t believe everything you see on social media.
  3. Looking after yourself is important. When you’re happier you’re better able to support your partner and your baby. Think about what was important to you before you had children and find a way to include that in your life.
  4. Times are changing, so choose parental leave that is right for your family. Be brave, even if you are the first in your workplace. Discuss your plans with your partner and employer.
  5. It’s OK if you want to return to work, but it’s also OK if you change your mind.
  6. When you need help in parenting, get help early, getting help earlier makes it easier for you and your family. Accept help from others, especially your partner.
  7. Check-in with your partner and let them know what you need. Communicating with respect is important. 
  8. Share the load when looking after your baby. Work in a team and know that each of you will interact with your baby differently.
  9. Take time to connect and play every day with your baby. Your baby will love that time together with you.
  10. Quality time as a couple is important to stay connected. Discuss what quality time means to both of you and work together to make it happen. 

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