The addition of a new family member is a big change for everybody – including your toddler. Your toddler must learn to adjust from having you available whenever they need, to sharing you with another, more demanding person.
Before their new sibling arrives, your toddler may perceive changes in your behaviour – and misbehave more to get your attention. During the end stages of pregnancy, start talking to your toddler about the new baby and their special role as the older sibling.
When you bring your new baby home, your toddler may begin to adopt challenging or baby-like behaviours. It’s important you acknowledge you understand your toddler’s feelings.
To minimise and manage sibling rivalry start by involving your toddler with the new baby. They might like to help with tasks like getting a nappy or doing things together like reading books, telling stories, and singing songs. Remember to make one-on-one time for your toddler every day, to remind them of their importance to you.
Conflict between your toddler and an older sibling can also be difficult. Children like to feel that mum and dad treat all their children equally – and as such, rules must be fair and consistent. Even if the ‘no hurting’ rule applies to one specific child, it’s important to remind all your children of the rules.
Try to spend quality time with each child as often as possible. The activities you choose may be quite varied depending on their age.
When stepping in to manage conflict, attempt to remain calm and refrain from labeling blame. As a parent, it’s your role to notice what’s happening between siblings and try to understand the cause. Observe their way of working things out before stepping in yourself.
Above all, children should know their home is a safe place for everyone.
