This is a wonderful video to help you start thinking about how you can adjust to becoming a parent. VIDEO: REFLECTIONS
Both in your approach and everyday expectations. You can’t plan for everything; your baby may be sick or need changing just as you’re about to leave the house. These things happen.
Share feelings, ideas and expectations with your partner as you adjust to your new roles.
If it’s difficult to organise a babysitter, host a date night at home.
Sleep should be a priority. Find time to rest when your baby does.
- Prioritise household chores
You may need to rethink your household schedule. This can include doing only the important tasks, asking for help, or hiring someone. Don’t try to do everything.
If possible, plan ahead. You can do this with meals by cooking extra and freezing leftovers, or investing in a slow cooker.
Parenting groups offer great support, ideas and friendship.
If friends and family offer to babysit, cook or help around the house, say YES.
Comparing your parenting skills and/or baby to others may not be helpful. Concentrate on what makes your family unique, and forget about everybody else.
For more information on self-care, see Why is self-care important.
Feeling stressed? Refer to our brochure for practical tips on stress management.
Still worried? Download Mind the Bump – a handy app designed to prepare you for parenthood and the first two years of your baby’s life.
Karitane Tip: When you feel upset, frustrated or out of control, the best thing you can do is take a break. If alone, put your baby in a safe place – like a cot with the side up – and leave the room to take some deep breaths. If you’re constantly overwhelmed, remember there’s nothing wrong with asking for help.