Steve ‘Commando’ Willis
"When I first became a parent at 22, I was still young and very much about myself. Now I have four children and the dad I am today is worlds apart from what I was like back then. But what I always knew was that I wanted to do things differently to how I’d been parented. When I was growing up there was a lot of tension and anger in my house.
Being a dad to me is about showing love and affection, I’m always giving my kids hugs and kisses and telling how much I love them. I feel that’s something I lacked from an early age and it definitely had an impact on the more intimate aspects of my own life. That nurture and love is so important, but so is staying calm, being present in the moment and listening, really listening. It’s about not pretending to have all the answers, saying ‘I just don’t know’. It’s about reflecting and apologising if I have reacted or responded in way that I’m not happy with. I’m not perfect and we all make mistakes, but when I do, I try to talk to my kids about it